We should all be striving to be better and to do better. NLP is an excellent tool to help us achieve these things.
While many of us are fully aware of just how powerful NLP can be, countless ways can be used. As a result, we need to be focused on what we want to achieve and which methods from the standard NLP techniques list will be most productive.
This is because there are just too many options, and if you try to do all of them, you’ll dilute their effect. Less is more in this case.
So why put together an NLP techniques list that focuses on the methods that will help you the most?
Common Neuro-Linguistics Programming Methods
With that said, here are some popular NLP methods that people seem to use the most. However, don’t be swayed by popular opinion, you should go with the ones that are most useful to you.
In the early 20th century, Russian scientist Ivan Pavlov experimented with dogs by ringing a bell repeatedly while they ate. He found that he could get the dogs to salivate by ringing the bell frequently even when there was no food present.
The bell created a neurological connection between salivation and the bell, known as a conditioned response.
Stimulation-response anchors are a kind of stimulus-response stimulus that you can use yourself.
A positive emotional response can be triggered by anchoring yourself to a phrase or sensation. Whenever you feel low, you can activate this anchor by choosing a positive emotion or thought, and your feelings will instantly change.
Determine what you want to feel, such as happiness, confidence, calmness, etc.
Identify a place on your body where you would like to place this anchor, such as clicking your knuckles or pinching your fingernails. By touching someone, you can invoke a positive feeling at will. As long as you add a unique feature and stand out from other things, where you choose doesn’t matter.
Imagine a time in the past when you felt that way. Take a mental trip back to that time and float back into your body, seeing through your own eyes and reliving those memories. Your body language should be adapted to your memories and your state.
As you remember that memory, see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel what you felt. You will start to feel that state. When you tell your best friend a funny story from the past and “get into” the story, you start to laugh again because you “associate” with the story.
As you recall the memory, touch, pull, or squeeze the area you chose on your body. As you relive the memory, you will feel the feeling swell. Whenever your emotional state reaches its peak and begins to fade, release the touch.
Whenever you make that touch again, you will be triggered by the neurological response. Feel that state by touching yourself the same way again.
Imagine another time in the past when you felt that state, relive it through your own eyes, and anchor the state on the same spot. As you add memories, the anchor becomes more powerful and will trigger a stronger reaction.
Whenever you need to change your mood, use this technique.
When was the last time a situation made you feel uncomfortable? Occasionally, you may experience something that brings you to your knees. Perhaps you get nervous when you must speak in public at work. Maybe you feel a little shy when you want to approach that “special someone” you’ve been eyeing. The NLP technique of dissociation can help enormously when one experiences sadness, nervousness, or shyness.
Identify the emotion you want to eliminate (fear, rage, discomfort, etc.).
Imagine floating out of your body and seeing your situation from an observer’s perspective.
Observe how the feeling changes dramatically.
Consider floating out of your body as you look at yourself, then floating back into this one so that you’re still looking at yourself. The double dissociation should remove the negative emotion from almost any minor situation.
Influence and Persuasion
In addition to helping people eliminate negative emotions, limiting beliefs, bad habits, and conflict, part of NLP teaches how to influence and persuade others ethically.
Milton H. Erickson was a mentor in the field. Erikson’s studies were accomplished through hypnotherapy as well as psychiatry.
He became so adept at hypnosis that he could speak to other people’s subconscious minds without hypnosis. In everyday conversation, he could hypnotize people anywhere, anytime. As a result of Ericksonian hypnosis, the term “Conversational Hypnosis” was coined.
With this tool, we can influence and persuade others and help other people overcome fears, limiting beliefs, conflicts, and more without their conscious awareness. This is especially useful for reaching people who will otherwise refuse to listen (think of teenage children who aren’t interested in listening).
When you feel helpless or pessimistic about a situation, use this technique. Through reframing, you can change the meaning of any negative experience into something positive.
Say you end your relationship, for example. On the surface, that might seem not very good, but let’s think about it differently. Are there any benefits to being single? You now have a wider variety of relationships available to you. The freedom also extends to the timing of what you do. This relationship has provided you with valuable lessons you will be able to use in your future relationships.
All of these examples illustrate how to reframe a situation. By redefining the meaning of the breakup, you change your experience of it.
It is natural to panic/fear in these situations, but this creates more problems. As an alternative, shifting your focus the way I just described helps you clear your head and make more responsible, even-handed decisions.
It’s an easy set of NLP techniques, but they are powerful enough to help you get along with just about anyone. There are many ways to build rapport with another person. NLP is one of the quickest and most effective methods. Mirroring involves subtly emulating the body language, tone of voice, and words of another person.
Like-minded people tend to attract other like-minded people. As a result of subtly mirroring another person, the brain fires off mirror neurons, pleasure receptors in the brain, which cause people to enjoy those who mirror them.
Simply stand or sit in the same position as the other person. Tilt your head in the same direction. When they smile, smile back. Make sure your facial expression reflects theirs. As they cross their legs, cross yours. The voice they use, etc., should be echoed.
Subtlety is the key to creating an unconscious rapport. If you are too obvious, the other person may notice, which will probably cause a break in the relationship. Make sure you mirror in a natural, calm manner.