You’ve met your soulmate – at least it looks that way so far. In order to maintain that wonderful relationship you’ve been enjoying, you’re going to have to learn more about them and the person they are.
It’s normal to put off going down that road because you’re afraid of what you might find. God forbid if you uncovered something bad about them that is going to end your union.
Most likely, that won’t happen. But you still need to ask those questions to get to know your partner more deeply. Not to sound too dramatic, but your life and mental health are at stake.
Your new partner may not be a bad person, but there could be things about them that make the two of you incompatible.
Daily life together
There will always be important things to ask your significant other – regardless of where your relationship currently resides.
We can’t forget when that high you get from a new passionate relationship ends – and it eventually will – you’ve got to be able to get along and cherish one another. In a way, you enter into a ‘friend’ relationship most of your time together.
I’ve always looked at this arrangement as being 80% friend relationship and 20% romantic relationship. This means that when you ask those hard relationship questions, they’ll need to extend beyond the love and passion realm.
Types of relationship questions
Therefore, you’ll need to ask questions about all areas of life.
Like how they feel about certain things. What their most passionate beliefs are, and so forth. Don’t forget that this is a two-way street. Be willing to answer their questions honestly and completely. And for goodness sakes, don’t conform and give up your beliefs and feelings in order to please your partner – that will have disastrous results one day.
Let’s examine some important questions to ask your partner in different areas of life.
Deep relationship questions about values and ethics
It’s important for couples to learn about each other’s values early on in the relationship. By doing so, they can avoid potential conflict down the road. One way to learn about your partner’s values is to ask them deep questions. What are their thoughts on religion and politics? What is their definition of success? What do they believe is the most important thing in a relationship?
Asking your partner questions like these can help you get a better understanding of who they are and what they value. It can also help create a stronger connection between you and your partner.
So, next time you’re feeling curious about your partner, don’t be afraid to ask them some deep questions. Here are some more examples:
-What are some things that you consider to be important in life?
-What are your thoughts on honesty and trustworthiness?
-What are your thoughts on respect and treating others fairly?
-Do you have any strong beliefs or opinions that guide your actions?
-Is there anything that you feel particularly strongly about, even if it isn’t necessarily a value or belief?
-Are there any specific issues or topics that you feel strongly about morally or ethically?
-Do you think that personal beliefs and values should guide one’s actions, or do you think that what is right and wrong should be determined objectively?
-How do you think people should behave towards each other?
-What do you think is the most important thing to consider when making ethical decisions?
-Do you think that there are absolute truths, or do you think that truth is relative?
-What do you think is the most important thing to remember when considering the ethics of a situation?
-Are there any other questions that you think are important to ask about values and ethics?
Important relationship questions about compatibility
When you’re in a romantic relationship, compatibility is key. You need to be able to connect with your partner on a deep level in order to really make the relationship work.
One of the best ways to gauge compatibility is to ask each other questions. Not only will this help you get to know each other better, but it will also give you a chance to see how well you communicate and connect.
Some good questions to ask your partner include: What are your hopes and dreams for the future? What are your thoughts on children? What are your thoughts on religion or spirituality? What are your thoughts on finances?
These are just a few examples – there are endless possibilities when it comes to getting to know your partner better. The important thing is to ask questions that are meaningful to you and that will help you gauge whether or not you’re truly compatible.
If you’re struggling to come up with good questions to ask your partner, there are plenty of resources out there to help you. There are books, websites, and even articles like this one that can give you some great ideas. The important thing is to keep the lines of communication open with your partner and to keep asking questions. Only then will you be able to really gauge how compatible you are.
Here are some great examples you can use:
-What are your thoughts on marriage?
-Do you want kids?
-How do you feel about religion?
-What is your ideal relationship like?
-What kind of things do you like to do for fun?
-What is your view on finances in a relationship?
-How do you handle conflict in a relationship?
-What are your thoughts on monogamy?
-What kind of family do you come from?
-How do you feel about pets?
-Where do you see yourself living in the future?
-What are your thoughts on having children someday?
-Do you believe that laughter is important in a relationship?
These are just some questions that can help get to know your partner better and see if you are compatible with them. It’s important to be on the same page with your partner about major life decisions like marriage, kids, religion, and where you see yourself living in the future.
Having similar views on how to handle conflict and finances can also help make a relationship run more smoothly. Laughter is often said to be an important ingredient in a happy relationship, so it’s good to see if you and your partner share a similar sense of humor.
Ultimately, compatibility is key in any relationship, so getting to know your partner and seeing where you both stand on important issues is essential.
Important questions about families
It can be hard enough to get along with our own families, let alone our partners. But in a romantic relationship, it’s important to try to get along with each other’s families as much as possible. After all, they’re the people who were closest to in our lives.
Of course, this may not be a big concern unless your relationship has gotten very serious – to the point of possibly spending your lives together.
One way to get to know your partner’s family better is to ask them some hard questions. What are their hopes and fears? What are their biggest accomplishments and failures? What do they love most about their family?
Asking your partner deep questions about their family can help you understand them better and build a stronger bond with them. So next time you’re feeling a little awkward around your partner’s family, try asking them some of these questions. You may be surprised at how much you have in common.
Here are some questions you can ask your partner to get an idea of how they would get along with your family members:
-How do you think your parents will react to me?
-Do you think my siblings and I will get along?
-What kind of relationship do you have with your own family?
-What do you think our kids will be like?
-Do you think we’ll be able to relate to each other’s families?
-How do you think our families will react to our relationship?
-Do you think they’ll approve of us dating/being married?
-What do you think our families will have in common?
-Do you think we’ll have any disagreements about family matters?
-How do you think we’ll handle holidays and other family gatherings?
These are just a few questions to get started. It’s important to talk about your families early on in the relationship so that you can gauge whether or not there could be potential conflicts down the road.
If you’re already thinking about marriage, it’s especially important to make sure that your families will get along well. The last thing you want is for there to be tension between your spouse and your family members. By asking these questions, you can get a better sense of whether or not your families will mesh well together.