Failure is the first step to success. People with success tell their stories about how they failed and then turned their failures into success, and one day you will too. When you find yourself asking, “Why do I keep failing?” Read on.
Being right all the time is not realistic or helpful, and getting it right all the time is not natural. When we fail, we learn not to do things, allowing us to keep fixing what we habitually do wrong until we get it right.
You can grow from failure by becoming wiser and smarter than you were before. You can’t achieve any success in your life if you do not use the opportunities provided by your failures.
If you feel like everything you do is falling apart, here are seven reasons why. If you address these seven reasons, you will find that instead of experiencing constant failure, you will be achieving more in your life.
The fear of failure
We are paralyzed by fear of failure. Our perception of failure changes when we feel like we fail constantly. An opportunity will never come your way if you have this mindset. You are setting yourself up for failure before you have even begun if you have a fear of failure.
Wanting too much too soon
How we live our lives is heavily influenced by social media. Social media is full of people who describe their incredibly successful lives with flashy videos. And they also post several images of their material wealth such as big homes, luxury cars, clothes, boats, jewelry, planes, etc.
There is a constant message that success is within reach – all we have to do is work for it.
Despite admonishments to dream big, we are constantly told that we can achieve anything. We often make the mistake of setting challenging goals, and when we fail, we become discouraged and give up.
Aspiring high and dreaming big is not a problem. While you should aim high, you must also consider the amount of effort, dedication, and work it takes each day to get close to your goals.
Be aware that instant results are not realistic, so make sure the goals you set are both achievable and realistic, one step at a time, not all at once.
Planning is not happening
A lack of planning often goes hand in hand with wanting too much too soon. A plan is essential to achieving your dreams and goals in life. Having no plan reduces your chances of success. A plan keeps you on track, gives you direction, and holds you accountable.
An effective plan will have attainable, measurable, and specific goals that are all heading in the same direction as your ultimate goal. Plan for the obstacles and challenges you may face, as well, and have a plan for dealing with them.
A tendency to give up too easily
People who fail are most likely to give up. Success is not easy, and there are many bumps along the way. The easier it is to give up when you are rejected or fail, the more likely you will give up.
Don’t give up the next time you feel like giving up. Your success shouldn’t be based on a project that came up short or some rejection you had before.
Reset your state of mind and use your power of choice to determine what you do next because no one else has that power over you!
Reluctance to seek advice and assistance
Achieving your life goals and dreams cannot be done by yourself. This is not a solo quest! Feelings of failure may be due to your reluctance to seek out feedback or seek help from others.
It’s important to receive constructive feedback so you can see what you’re doing differently. Other people may not share your opinion, and that’s okay. Nevertheless, it is always good to know why they think that way.
It is important to seek feedback and advice when dealing with hardship and failure. It might be uncomfortable to hear their feedback, but if it is constructive, you will gain insight and learn valuable lessons about moving forward rather than backward in your life.
Failure to learn from past mistakes
We learn so much from our mistakes. Nevertheless, if you choose to ignore these lessons, they are irrelevant. If you ignore those lessons, you will keep repeating the same mistakes until you finally get the message, or you won’t.
Make sure you don’t bury your mistakes. Always spend ample time reflecting on what went wrong and what you learned. Determine what did not work, and then figure out what you can do to avoid making the same mistakes again.
You don’t believe in yourself
You may be the most talented and intelligent person in the room, but failure will dominate your life rather than opportunities if you don’t believe in yourself.
Success comes from believing in yourself, and that is what distinguishes successful people from unsuccessful people. Despite the obstacles and challenges they will face, they think they can accomplish their goals.
This is a sure-fire sign that you need to work on your self-confidence if you constantly look for reasons why things don’t work out for you or blame anyone or anything other than yourself.
You will be less apt to give up if you start believing in yourself and what you can achieve. As a result, your conviction will propel you to find the solution that will work for you.
The only thing we can control is our power of choice. It is up to us to decide whether we will allow failure to discourage us or use the experience as a motivation to keep moving forward.