All of us are eager to meet our soulmates, and we devote much of our time looking for them.
If you are like me, I was obsessed with finding my soulmate for a few years. But it seemed that the more I tried, the lonelier I became.
It got to the point where I quit going to dinner parties and outings because it seemed that I was the only single. All my closest friends had found their soulmates and even already had children with them. While I was delighted for them, I was also a little envious and felt more isolated.
For me, the perfect companion was the opposite of all that.
So when did I meet my soulmate?
Bear with me – I am getting to that.
After some time, I decided that life was too short to be focusing on the things I didn’t have. I began looking at my personal space and environment. And I started getting rid of things that support who I wanted to become.
I spent a few weeks sorting through my apartment and set about redecorating my surroundings. My goal was to concentrate on things that made me feel good about myself.
Then I improved how I looked and dressed – started working on the way others saw me. My goal was to like what I saw in the mirror.
Finally, I worked on my inner self. I meditated and began accepting what the world was giving me. I became less emotional – which is always good – and it allowed me to see things differently. I also started reading more – I read fun stuff and even some helpful non-fiction. The key is to always have fun with it!
Then it happened!
The most wonderful guy in the world suddenly popped into my life.
So when will you meet your soulmate? >>> If you are doing things the right way, the answer is when you least expect it.
Because when you’re not expecting it, it’s a sign that you are enjoying your life. So that guy or girl enhances your life – rather than having your world revolve around them.
The most enlightening thing about all this was after I met my wonderful husband, I realized that I’d been doing everything wrong before.
Whenever we are obsessed and get depressed and wonder when our soulmate will come, we put out the wrong vibe. And this vibe is attracting the wrong soulmate to you. So be thankful you haven’t met your perfect love yet – because you’re probably not quite ready for them at the moment.
Most of us are getting it backward; we have to attract our perfect soulmates – not necessarily seek them out. We need to focus more on the obstacles we have built, preventing us from finding our soulmates.
7 Signs your soulmate is coming
Bear in mind that these signs cannot be taken as a guarantee that your soulmate is coming. Treat them as good indications that your love life is on the right track. More importantly, rejoice that these things are happening in your life!
Your dreams are about romance
Many happily married couples often say that they were having romantic dreams right before they met one another. In some extreme cases, they dreamt of the specific person before meeting them. Now keep in mind that dreams can be tough to interpret, but what’s important is understanding their symbolism.
Dreams can be an excellent confirmation signal of other clues. The common theme among these couples who had romantic dreams were waking up feeling happy and contented. The specific details were not as important as how the dream made them feel afterward.
You’ve been working on yourself
As I shared earlier with my life, improving yourself in a healthy way is an excellent thing for your love life and many things in your life. It’s a sign that you are ready to meet your soulmate, and you’re beginning to attract a very healthy relationship.
A person who is desperate for love only sucks the life out of those around them. Even when the intentions are good, and they really don’t mean to.
We always attract the type of people we are. This is why some complain about always attracting the wrong people. They need to stop the cycle and work on themselves first.
After you’ve done this, you’ll know yourself very well, you’ll be comfortable with yourself, and you’ll be ready to share your life with someone extraordinary.
You understand the purpose of your life
One of the most challenging things in the world is finding our life’s purpose. As most of us attempt to answer this question, we often get caught in three big clouds: what we want to do, what others think we should do, and what we are skilled at doing.
In most cases, your life purpose is probably somewhere in the middle of these clouds – but not always. The key is determining what feels right to you. It should make you feel terrific about yourself, and it should be sustainable. Don’t be a starving artist because you like to draw – it’s not feasible in today’s world.
Also, keep in mind that sometimes what makes you feel good is better suited to be a hobby that perfectly balances your life with everything else. The most important thing is not to fret and stress over this quest.
Whenever you discover your unique gift to the world around you, then you will flourish like you never have before.
You feel a sense of love everywhere
As you dream about romance and feel good about yourself, you may not know it, but you are rehearsing and feeling your new relationship in advance. It is a preparation process and a powerful sign.
You’ll see others in a different light as your sense of empathy gets larger. You’ll feel their plight more than ever. You’ll interact with them on a new level.
When you see happy couples, you will share in their happiness – rather than feeling a little envious as you did before. Your love awareness will increase as you notice romantic songs, books, and movies more than before. Just remember that patience is a virtue.
You know precisely what you desire
The most significant benefit of knowing yourself is that you know what things in your life are good and what things are toxic. You’ll begin enhancing the good stuff and discarding the bad stuff – this will become an automatic response from your subconscious.
As you begin this process, your wants and desires become more apparent and more precise. This is an excellent sign that your soulmate is thinking of you – in all likelihood. Remember, you and your soulmate are probably sharing many of the same thoughts.
Knowing the things you want is a good sign that you are making room for your soulmate in your life. And you have already established a set of values that is attracting them specifically.
You have a high energy level
Increased energy is always a great sign – especially mental energy. It means that you are finally letting go of those internal judgments and opinions that burned so much of your energy in the past.
It means that you’ve given up the need to defend yourself from others all the time – which takes even more energy.
How many times have you met a potential companion, but they say, “I’m not ready”?
The fact is that they are probably mentally exhausted and emotionally depleted. Bad relationships will do this to anyone; that’s what it’s essential to be patient and find someone who enhances your life – not fill a hole within your soul.
Experiencing high levels of energy is a wonderful sign that your soulmate may be around the corner.
You’ve let go and allowed fate to work
Emotionally and mentally letting go is often the most challenging thing we must learn to do as humans. Some people never learn this because they must have control.
At some point, we must realize that fate and the universe is our friend – and we need to trust them. If your intentions come from a healthy, loving state, the universe will reward you – only trust and patience are required from us.
Think about that job you wanted but didn’t get – yet later, an even better one came along. What about the house you wanted to buy, but someone else bought it instead – yet you ended loving the home you purchased later, much more.
Many people have hundreds of stories like these. Stories where they finally let the universe provide for them. We humans tend to get in the way of our progress. And some of us are doing this in our desire for a soulmate. Learn to relax and enjoy your life.
Signs of meeting your true match
This discussion would not be complete without talking about actually meeting our match and knowing when we’ve met our soulmate. As we list the signs of finding your true soulmate, keep in mind that both parties must be experiencing these signs.
You get very giddy around each other
It is natural for you and your soulmate to feel giddy and happy most of the time. The feeling of total euphoria will become commonplace. And then when you’re away from one another, you can only think about seeing them again.
Please don’t fret about this, your body is doing those things, and it’s okay. Falling in love releases a ton of dopamine in your body. This is the substance in our bodies associated with feelings and pleasure and reward – and it’s addictive.
You are comfortable in silence together
One that you’ll share better than anything with your soulmate, and that’s silence. Most of the time, two or more people have difficulty dealing with the silence around each other. It’s very awkward – and someone will always attempt to break it – as they’re uncomfortable.
Many of our dates have been like this. We try so hard to put our best foot forward to worry about blowing it during quiet times. But when you’re around someone, and you no longer feel the need to persuade, convince, or influence them, it means you are much at ease in their company.
Only true soulmates can share such a moment.
You’ll have a sharp increase in sexual energy
Even when you feel exhausted, your soulmate will energize you again when the situation calls on your libido. Falling in love has several stages; one of those is a lustful stage. When this happens, you’ll wonder where all your sexual energy came from.
Experts tell us that this burst of libido power is instinctual in humans – and it’s there to encourage us to reproduce. So we can blame this on our ancient ancestors.
Specifically, the brain’s hypothalamus, which controls our cerebral system, actually induces more estrogen and testosterone in the body. All we know is that our new soulmates are irresistible.
You eat and sleep less
People that are falling in love will typically so a sharp decrease in sleep and appetite. To begin with, we are very excited about meeting our new love interest. And as we’ve discussed, that special person takes up a lot of our thoughts and energy – and we expend a lot of energy in the process.
One would think that we would eventually become tired and sleep very well. But this is not often the case. It’s the same thing as trying to sleep in the evening after having a late workout when your body is too revved up.
The same thing occurs when you’ve met your soulmate. You’re too fired up to sleep, and because your body is producing so much adrenalin, you not hungry either.
Your soulmate puts you first
This is one of the most notable things that happens after meeting your true soulmate. They put you first in their life, and it’s something that you haven’t experienced in a great while. Some people get freaked out by this.
When your soulmate does this for you, be grateful and reciprocate when the opportunity presents itself. Note that this is also an acid test for your level of self-esteem. If your subconscious doesn’t feel like you deserve such special treatment, then your self-esteem is a little low.
If you want the relationship to last and grow, then you must force yourself to accept it. Don’t worry if it makes you feel a little frightened; you’ll grow from that, and one day, you’ll be okay with this.
Understand that after you’ve met that forever person, both of you will introduce one another to family, friends, and colleagues. The best way to handle this is to be yourself and be as gracious as possible
Everything flows naturally between you and your soulmate
I think that this is the best indicator of being with your soulmate. To put it simply, everything clicks when you are with them. And things flow smoothly – almost effortlessly.
To fully grasp this, you have to consider a bad relationship. Most of us have been in relationships that didn’t go very well. For me, it seemed as if every little decision like where to eat or what movie to see was a big struggle.
I’ve heard people say that a bad relationship is like swimming against the current in a river. You kind of get used to the struggle and don’t realize the impact until you get out of the water. Then you realize how tired you are and how hard it was on your body.
A good relationship is like swimming with the current – everything is effortless and much easier. And you have much more energy.
Now understand that it’s not necessarily because the other person was bad, just because you were in a bad relationship. It’s because those two people weren’t a good match for each other. And the other person will probably agree that it was a bad relationship.
When you fight, you fight fair with each other
Many people try to suppress and not have arguments or disagreements, but they are wrong. Having fights occasionally helps a relationship in the long run – as long as the fights are fair.
True soulmates have no problem learning how to fight fair. The first few fights require toleration and learning. One person may be inclined to get angry and yell, which may cause the other person to clam up and say nothing. If this scenario is allowed to continue, the quiet person will have enough of this and leave altogether.
When you genuinely care for one another, the quiet person says that yelling makes them afraid to say anything. The yelling person says they do it out of habit, and it takes them a few hours to calm down again. Then, together they craft a solution that works for them.
But they are willing to adjust their behavior out of love for their soulmate. And the two of them keep talking and making adjustments. When they fight, they’ll calmly discuss it later and make adjustments – and they forgive each other.