Good or bad, the fact of the matter is that our habits fuel our daily lives. The actions we
take, the thoughts we have, the decisions we make, all come from the habits we have developed and cultivated over time. We can even learn how to manifest the life of our dreams.
These habits are a response to what we have experienced in our lives. For instance, if we experience an event that hurt us deeply, then our future actions are greatly influenced by that event. And we often take extreme precautions to prevent a recurrence of such hurtful experiences.
Every habit we develop contains its own catalyst and provides a unique result. Some of these daily habits are quite simple while others are extremely complex.
They often draw from emotional triggers and offer subtle mental rewards. But each of these personal habits is also malleable. An alcoholic has the ability to become sober.
Dysfunctional families are able to transform their lives. Someone who dropped out of high school can go on to be a very powerful executive.
However, to changing a habit is more than just pure willpower, which you have probably heard over and over. Each of us have developed habits that we have attempted to break many times and failed every time. And there are good habits that we have tried to adopted and didn’t stick with them. Our failures in regards to our daily habits and more than not having determination, we simply don’t understand how habits work.
Studies have shown that all habits get changed and altered in pretty much the same way. When someone decides to stop drinking or smoking, there are actually specific patterns at work.
During very extensive studies that took place during the 1990s, Massachusetts Institute of Technology researchers discovered an interesting neurological loop that exists in every habit. They also discovered that every habit has three elements. It has a routine, it has a reward and finally, it has a cue. They called this a “habit loop.”
They went on to study individuals who had changed prevalent habits successfully. They discovered that these people all followed the very same steps. They identified common routines pertaining to the habit, experimented with various rewards to dealing with cravings from the behavior, and isolated cue that were triggering the habitual behavior to begin with.
The people who successfully changed their habits simply had new plans to react differently to the cues that triggered their habits.
The law of attraction is not a magic wand. Because the brain preferentially scans and stores negative experiences, we have to consciously, habitually build the positive mental muscle. We all have layers and layers of stories, limiting beliefs, fears and blocks that have become the interior landscape of our minds and cannot be changed overnight just by thinking positive thoughts. In order to become a master at manifesting with the law of attraction, we have to undo the patterns that have been stored in our unconscious and replace them with positive, empowering patterns. In other words, rewire the brain.
Ensure you can speak up by making a list of all the things you know you should be talking about and put dates next to them to determine by when you’ll have those difficult conversations. No matter how long it takes, making this commitment is important to your self respect. Each hard conversation you tackle will unleash a sense of freedom and joy in your heart that you cannot imagine while you’re pondering, and probably fearing, what will go down. Try not to predict or control the outcome. Just go for the ride and be proud to be someone who speaks up. Soon it will become habit and you will be a much happier, more expressed person.
The truth is that you don’t need to sacrifice your life savings with a coach to turn your mindset around. With this step by step guide, you’ll realize you already have all the ingredients within you and the opportunities around you to start cultivating a positive mindset today. (I’m not denying working with a coach can definitely help. However, you can take a faster route not to mention a less expensive one!)
- Prosperity comes from unexpected sources
- They find their soulmate or present relationship is more fulfilling
- They make more friends
- They accomplish tasks with far less effort
- They start living healthier and automatically reach their ideal weight
- And much more!
Imagine what you life will be a YEAR FROM TODAY after experiencing these wonderful things …